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mercredi 10 juillet 2019

Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation

 Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation
 Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation
Reconciling with a friend, acquaintance, or loved one is a long and delicate process. If you feel that reconciliation is justified or warranted you need to understand that you may not be able to straighten the situation overnight.

You will have to have patience, self control, and diligence. The first thing that you need to do after a falling out or a breakup is to sit back and honestly evaluate the situation.

Go ahead and apologize for your part of the problem. You are not taking the blame but if there was a falling out you had to have something to do with it. After you have expressed your regrets leave it alone. Don’t try to explain anything or take the situation any farther.

Take the time that you need to think about what happened and analyze how you will prevent it from happening again. Were you prone to arguments? Were there financial problems? Was the problem that someone just didn’t want to listen? Were you the one who would not listen?

 Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation
 Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation
The problem in any situation where there is conflict is that one or both of you didn’t want to submit your will to the other. This is always the problem with any conflict no matter what the perceived cause may be. There is always a catalyst to the problem.

In other words there is one thing that served as a trigger and got the process rolling. Were you the one who was pushing the buttons or were you getting your buttons pushed? Someone had a motive which could not be met.

This was the cause of the problem. You need to be honest with yourself during this time of introspection. You don’t have to provide a written report of your problems to anyone else. This is strictly so that you can get a handle on your end of the situation. Even if you were right you should accept the fact that you may not be able to reconcile with the other person.

“Moments of kindness and reconciliation are worth having, even if the parting has to come sooner or later.”
Alice Munro 

Sometimes things just won’t work out no matter how hard you try. If they don’t work out you need to know in your mind that you did the absolute best that you could have done.

Maybe you will just have to assume the blame if it will take the other party off of the defensive. You must be careful before you do because this will not work with everybody.

Some people will never admit that they are wrong no matter how wrong they are so this tactic is not always good to use. If you can’t work it out from here then maybe you have to accept at this point that you may not be able to reconcile.

 Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation
 Mind Not Found : The Art of Reconciliation
Don’t get caught in the act of attempting to justify yourself or what you have said or done to the other person.

This is always a mistake because it will put them on the defensive. Once they go on the defensive they will feel as though they have to retaliate any time that you make a statement.

You will have to be the bigger person and swallow your pride. Recognize the buttons which were pushed that caused the conflict and move on.

Don’t tell the other person that you are in a reconciliation process and that you are trying to apply principals to the problem to get it straightened out.

Just do whatever you need to do. If you have apologized or let the other person know that the door is open to reconciliation then you have done exactly what you need to do. Now the rest of the healing process will be a matter of time.

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